Men vs. Women

Cuti ada lagi dalam 3,4 hari. Then, sambung kelas balik. Kejap je rasa cuti ni. Even sebulan, tapi macam tak rasa pun. Banyak dibazirkan dengan tengok movie, sembang-sembang, and of course TIDUR. Haish. Masa dah tak boleh nak putar balik, so deal with it.



Semalam, boring-boring baca la buku ni : Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Then, sampai kat satu part best ni, ameklah quote yang macam "arguable" pastu post as my status kat fb. Alamak, lupa nak cite. Abaikan!  Tak sangka pulak statement tu menimbulkan banyak comment from men. Not really BANYAK, tapi ada la sikit yang dorang tak setuju.

This is the quote that I cited. It turns out that 'man claimed that their silent is nothing. Woman can't predict anything from it. And, why expect the worst, when you can just think positive?'. Lebih kurang macam tu la antara comment2 yang dibalas.





Okay, nak jelaskan kat sini, YES youre right when you've said that it is better to think positively. Tapi, because of woman's nature, memang first thought akan fikir negative/the worst dulu.




Example:

Bila perempuan tu bagi masakan dia kat anyone or in this case, "Man", she will be delightful kalau the man puji or as simple as saying thank you. Sebab, bila the man just kept silent, she will assume that something is wrong, or masakan dia tak sedap, or the man tak sihat and tak lalu makan. [ni lebih kepada marriage relationship kot].


One more, contoh kalau tengah sembang-sembang dengan 'the man', and dia hanya diam and bagi peluang kat perempuan tu utk bercakap non-stop, pun akan make 'the woman' assumed that 'the man' tak ambil peduli and malas nak dengar dia bercerita. Padahal, sebenarnya laki tu hanya nak jadi attentive/good listener.




This is what happens sebab both man and woman are different in nature. Both have to know each others negativity and positivity, thus take actions on how to deal with them.



Macam situation 1, the man hanya perlu say thanks and kalau rajin, pujilah sikit. Apa salahnya kan? Makan pun dapat, perut kenyang, and perempuan tu pulak suka hati. Win Win Situation.



Situation 2 pulak, the man just have to menyampuk sikit-sikit in the coversation and jadi attentive listener the way woman picture it to be. The woman pun perlu gak invite her listener to be more involved in the conversation in order for him to pay attention. Macam tu lah. Give and take. Nothing gain, nothing lose.


Jadi, simple kan? Kalau dua-dua pihak dapat bertolak-ansur, aman dunia ini insya Allah.






Till next post, kalau ada lagi point-point best dalam buku tu, i'll share them with you guys.